Every week on my Facebook page, I ask a “Tough Q Tuesday.”
It’s simple. I’ll ask the group to answer a question. The best responses make it onto the website along with my advice or comments. Because who doesn’t need more advice?!?!
I’m hoping these questions and answers will start a conversation, inspire parents to try more things, and get other moms and dads to realize they’re not alone in the world.
Here’s this week’s question:
“What’s the one question you really have to STOP asking your kids?”
I’ll kick off the fun with the question I need to stop asking my kids.
We’ll spend the day together, doing everything they want to do, for hours on end.
It’s bedtime and I’ll ask “did you two have a good day.”
They’ll list all the things about the day they DIDN’T get to do. It happens every time.
I stopped asking. The other options was to stop taking them anywhere.
Here’s what some other parents had to say about the questions to stop asking kids.
“What did I say?'” They never listen so I usually have to make them repeat me if I’m asking them to do something with more than one step.” – Megan
I’m all for giving them post-it notes with reminders of what to do. Some of them would be pretty hilarious like “Never touch the cat’s anus” and “She’s your sister, not a moving target.”
“What SHOULD you be doing right now?” – Vicki
I actually ask myself this question a couple times per day. I just use this as an excuse.
“Are you wearing underwear?” (But I ask it with good reason) – Amy
I also ask myself this question a couple times per day.
“Why is the floor sticky?” – Holly
“Okay guys, What happened?” – Sue
Oh man. Get ready for an interpretation that’s so far from the truth you’ll think it’s a screenplay for a Hollywood film. “Based on true events.”
“Did you actually use soap in the shower?” – Tammy
Better question to ask – do they know there’s soap in the shower?
“Did you wash your hands?” Spoiler alert- they didn’t. – Kelly Ann
Better question to ask – do they know there’s a sink in the bathroom?
“Did you hear me?” – Courtney
They did. When they don’t respond I usually whisper “Maybe we’ll have Kit-Kats for dinner” and suddenly the kids can hear as well as bats.
“Who did it?” The answer is normally the “not me” ghost. – Desi
The “not me” ghost has access to more houses than Santa.
“Did you flush?” I shouldn’t have to ask an 11-year-old that question. – Jon
Ugh. I feel ya, dude.
“Why don’t you listen until I yell??” I should just get a good shock collar and be done raising my voice. – Michelle
Is the collar for you or the kids? I’d put it on myself and deliver some volts as a reminder they’ll never listen to a word we say.
“Are you going to put me in a home?” – Lisa
“How was school?” – Jon
OK, here’s one that every parent asks and every kid is awful at asking. I think I’ve found a possible solution.
The average school day is about 6-7 hours. That’s a lot of time to ponder.
Maybe we need to be more specific.
“How was ____ class?”
“What’s something crazy your teacher said today?”
“How did you sit next to at lunch?”
Anything other than “briefly tell me about the last 6 hours.”
It’s worth a shot.
“Are you serious?” – Scott
Oh, they’re serious.
“Was that a fart or did you poop?” – Faith
I mean do you actually WANT the answer??
“Where are your pants?!?” – Leslie
I also also ask myself this question a couple times per day.
“Why is this wet?!?!” – Roger
I mean it could be worse, Roger. You could be asking and they’re pantless.
“What was that noise?” – Suzi
I’ve found the biggest catastrophes follow the smallest sounds. I’ll hear the kids go “OH MY GOD!” and they’ve spilled a cup of water on the counter and didn’t hear a peep when one of the walls in their room was missing.
“Why are you making me look like a bad mother?” – Krista
It’s their job. It’s right in the job description.
“Are you fucking kidding me?” – Michelle
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