19 Symptoms Of Adult ADHD That Only People Who Suffer From It Will Understand

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Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder isn’t just for kids. About 4% to 5% of U.S. adults have it. But few adults get diagnosed or treated for it. About seven years ago, I was diagnosed with adult ADHD.

That’s a lie.

In first grade I was diagnosed with all of the symptoms of attention deficit disorder but I’m not sure that’s what the school counselor who conducted the tests called the prognosis in the conference with my parents. I wasn’t a participant in that conference. I don’t know what the counselor said, how my parents reacted, and what happened to get me into special classes a few times a week. I also don’t know why I abruptly stopped taking those classes.

My mom explained that I “tested out of them” but this is the same overprotective Italian mother who told me that my pet rabbit ran off to live on a farm upstate (he died) and that the medical term for my private parts was a “peesh.”

After a couple weeks of cohabitation with my then-girlfriend, now wife, she asked if I’d ever been tested for adult ADHD. Her ex-boyfriend was diagnosed with adult ADHD and he and I exhibited many of the same traits. At least I think that’s what she said. I walked away from our conversation, mid-sentence, because that’s normal behavior.

The tests were conclusive. I was put on meds immediately. Life got slightly easier but it’s still a daily struggle. Here’s what I, and others with adult ADHD, deal with on a daily basis.

19 Things Only People With Adult ADHD Will Understand

1) Everything is a distraction. Especially flashing lights on computers, phones, monitors and screens. There’s a chat box hopping up and down on my screen as I write this and it’s taking every ounce of restraint not to look at it every time.

2) Adult ADHD has nothing to do with “a lack of organization.” It’s also got nothing to do with interest. Even things I love only get half my focus. I love writing. I love writing fiction. I can’t sit down for longer than fifteen minutes and write without getting the shakes. Even if I’m writing the next great American novel. I’m not writing the next great American novel, and thank God, because I’d never finish and die miserable.

3) As soon as I tell people I’ve got adult ADHD I get to hear a twenty minute story about how they also have adult ADHD but it’s not diagnosed and how they do all the same things and how they totally relate. The fact that they think they’ve got adult ADHD actually makes it feel as though what I’ve got is “no big deal” and the rest of the world somehow just deals with it all day. They don’t have. They don’t get it.

4) Reading is impossible in most circumstances. If there is any other noise going on my mind goes “read, read, read, listen, read, listen, listen, READ DAMN YOU…ugh, nevermind, just listen…”

5) Everything gets started but nothing gets usually gets done.

6) I have adult ADHD but I feel like it’s more just adult ADD. I was much more hyper as a kid. There’s very little hyper going on these days. I’ve mellowed in my age. I think it was the hyper that raised the red flags at school. I don’t feverishly rub my hands together for no good reason or shake them out like jazz hands anymore. Well, not as much.

7) In his book I Wear the Black Hat, Chuck Klosterman mentions that a friend of his — also a writer — once commented the problem he has with writing and distractions is that (paraphrasing) “his writing tool is also his porn delivery tool.” In other words, computer performs thousands of other functions to distract from the task at hand. Agreed. I do one hundred other things on the computer while doing the one thing I’m supposed to be doing on the computer.

8) It’s impossible to plan to do things. One of the keys to writing — not this type of writing but long form writing — is to set aside a time every day to write. Now, I can say to myself “tomorrow at 2pm I’m going to write” but when tomorrow at 2pm comes I’m either busy doing something else, forgot I made the personal commitment or just don’t want to do it. Even if I’m doing NOTHING ELSE I still won’t sit down and do what I intended to do.

9) I will walk into a room and do everything else but what I walked into the room to do. I’ll walk out of the room forgetting I didn’t do the thing I wanted to do. I’ll realize all this hours later. I’ll walk into the room again and the same thing happens again. On the plus side, a ton of stuff gets done. Just not the one thing I need done.

10) I’m looking at you. I hear the words. I see your mouth moving. I can’t make promises that the words are finding a way into my head. There are too many imaginary animals dancing around inside the cranium to be 100% sure I’m comprehending the conversation. Don’t take offense if I ask you to repeat yourself a thousand times or forget something you’ve told me. Honestly, I didn’t forget. I probably never heard it to begin with.

11) I didn’t mean to interrupt you while you were talking. Go on. Sorry. I did it again.

Signs Of Adult ADHD

12) There are drugs that help, which is good, except those drugs can also be abused by people without ADHD. Those people take Adderall, Ritalin, Strattera and the like to do MORE work and get MORE done. I’m taking them to just get ANYTHING done. I’m taking meds to make it through the day and not get fired.

13) The adult ADHD drugs have side effects. Nothing like piss your pants, bleed for hours, four hour hard-on type side effects but some have been linked to weight gain, thoughts of suicide and open Pandora’s box to trying other addictive drugs. I’ve never wanted to kill myself and never will. Things are bad but they ain’t that bad. I’ve never done a drug stronger than weed. My weight is one hundred percent linked to my love of ice cream. Research and findings on the long term side effects of these drugs isn’t yet available but I look at it very much like a professional athlete taking performance enhancing drugs — I’ll win the batting title this year and deal with my other bat turning into a swimming noodle some other time.

14) I often wonder what my life would look like now if I took the meds back in grade school, high school, college and the first ten years in the working world. Maybe I wouldn’t have gotten straight Cs, had to take summer courses and gotten laid off from numerous jobs.

15) My personal Facebook page has over 65K Fans. I’ve written four books. I do stand-up in comedy clubs on the same stage, sometimes on the same show, as some of the biggest names in comedy. I’ve interviewed some of the biggest celebs in the world. I still sometimes feel like a professional failure.

16) I’ve screwed up the numbering of this list countless times and caught myself. I needed another editor to look it over. Unfortunately, I can’t double check all my work or have someone over my shoulder making sure I don’t screw things up. That’s why spelling errors get made and stove burners are left on.

17) People always comment I’m such a nice guy. I’m glad because underneath the smile and jokes I’m a moody, irritable and often unhappy person. I don’t know why. The fact that I feel this way usually makes me moody, irritable…you get it.

18) I’ve got two kids. The thought that this issue might be genetic scares the fuck out of me.

19) Besides the meds, I’ve learned to manage my tendencies. I make daily lists, leave reminders and try as hard as possible to organize the chaos. It works about 70% of the time. In related news, I started writing this article in April and I’m finally finishing and publishing it today. That should tell people all they really need to know.

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12 Comments on “19 Symptoms Of Adult ADHD That Only People Who Suffer From It Will Understand”

  1. I’m still trying to find the right words, but your list was perfect. I had the blessing of having my Dad diagnosed with adult ADHD when I was in college. Getting myself diagnosed was a pretty easy step.

    You mentioned that you’re scared, being a parent. I was terrified during my pregnancy with my firstborn. My son is 8 now, and he’s totally ADHD. I want to tell you as a grown-up ADHD kid with an ADHD kid of my own: If either of your kids have it, obviously, it won’t be easy, but it’s going to be SO much easier for them than it was for us. Because they won’t have to wait 20 or 30 years to figure it out, and the schools know what they’re dealing with now. My son doesn’t hate school. He likes it about as much as the average 8-year-old (so, about 35% of the time). His teachers all know he has ADHD, they know how to teach him along with the other kids, and they all tell me how much they love having him in their classes. I’ve been doing the ugly-cry of happiness at parent teacher conferences for three years now. It’s fucking AWESOME!

    Comparatively, I mean. Better than the 80’s, when teachers had only just heard of it, and WAY better than it was for my Dad in the 50’s when he was just labelled lazy and slow.

    Also, your kids will have you. There’s a moment of painful relief in your kid’s eye when they are struggling with something, and you look right at them and calmly tell them that you get it, because you’re that way, too.

    Don’t be scared, Chris. You’ve got this.

  2. The “Read more” link doesnt work .. I would like to read this article since I’ve been diagnosed with ADHD and have a child.
    I’ve been told I have a mild form. However, since I know I have it things in my life do make more sense.

  3. I have had ADD/ADHD all my life and sometimes it is more controllable than at other times. It doesn’t help to be slightly manic also. But what I do like is that when I am at work I am open and honest about it and when they are working on a project and they are trying to write up directions for people to follow I offer my ADD brain for the “test pilot”. If “I” can understand the directions, because I analyze and tear everything down until I totally understand how to do something, then see if I can understand how to do their project, if I can do it….. the average consumer should be able to. I try to bring along a “light heartened”, “it’s good to hire someone with a disability” because not everything comes easy to everyone in this world.
    I stopped worry about being different years ago. I start out by telling people that “I learn a little different than most people”, but when I catch on, I’ll be the one teaching the other people in the future.

  4. As someone who has ADHD, and both my children do too, this article was validating. I still am surprised that I am not the only one that experiences these things. I graduated high school in the 80’s and I felt like I was very different from the rest of the world. How true that no one understood. It is a shame that there is a lot of negativity surrounding the medications for ADHD. I do realize that they are abused, however, for those of us that really do need them, they save my life, one day at a time. They are miracle workers for me. Tragic that neither of my children, now 21 and 22 think they need them. I have not been able to sit down and have a conversation with my daughter for years. My son is failing college and his life is pretty much totally chaotic. Neither understand that they need to do something different. We certainly have a way to go. ADHD is humbling, difficult, and I am sorry that I have passed it to my children. Sunny side up, we keep moving. Thank goodness we are making progress. Thank you all for the words of wisdom and encouragement!

  5. Chris-
    Thank you for sharing your experiences. I have to say that reading your list-in order- was really hard. Yup, me too. I have ADHD. Yes, it meant that as a child I was THAT kid in class. And as a mom, I realize that my kids are most likely to also be THOSE kids. I am really relieved that you talked about your decision to go without drugs to help with the symptoms. I think more and more parents need to get the schools to work on teaching to the unique abilities of each child before assuming that drugs will magically cure an ADHD kid. Yes, I realize teachers have an incredibly difficult time as it is – and teaching an ADHD kid shouldn’t just fall on the teachers. It’s become a society issue and school districts need to accommodate all children.
    ADHD kids learn differently – just like kids with dyslexia learn differently. Kids need to learn to “train” their brains how to learn, read and accomplish tasks. Medicating a kid in the hopes that it solves “the problem” doesn’t solve the problem – it just masks it.
    As we know – patience and understanding go a long way for those with ADHD. Thanks again!

  6. How to make a grilled cheese sandwich: 1. butter three pieces of bread 2. unwrap three pieces of cheese. 3. put pan on stove………. oh turn on burner. Place bread # 1 butter side down in pan. oh numbers 4? place cheese #’s 1 & 2 on bread in pan. remove plastic from cheese (whoops) place bread #2 butter side up (yeah that never happens for me either) wait oh I need to change the laundry ……………………………………smell of burning…..step? flip the sandwich, remove the burned bread add cheese slice #3 place bread slice #3 butter side up on the sandwich flip it grab the PAPER plate put the sandwich on the plate, oh you can use a spatula i imagine. I get you I totally get you I wish I was kidding about the grilled cheese sandwich. Your kids will survive. I know this, I promise. Do the best you can with what you’ve got. And..mental high five for the list. You are right THEY DON’T GET IT!!!

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